Kim, I thought about you just now and I couldn't finish my sleep. Tomorrow you would've been 51.
Your son can barely remember you and said that he doesn't think about you much, which upset Mum (his grandmother) terribly, but I do understand how that happened.
Ethan, you were young when your mom was gone, and it's not your fault. We've tried to talk about her, but it's hard for you to hear. It was too painful to remember her, so you sort of stopped. Someday maybe you will be able to listen, when you can handle it.
For some of us, Kim being gone will never be something that we can fully accept.
I have no words of wisdom for anyone suffering. We try to just remember the good times, but it doesn't seem to work like that for us. It just hurts.