Yesterday was the anniversary of my sister Kim's death. It's the only death anniversary that I remember. I forgot to blog about it yesterday because of some things that are going on with us, but that doesn't mean that I don't think about Kim every day, because I do. I thought about that date for two weeks before it even came up.
I'm not making light of the situation by making a glittery Blingee. I just like sparkly things. Don't Mum and Kim look so beautiful and happy? It's making me cry to see them. I'm very grateful to still have Mum. I love her so very much.
For anyone who has lost someone dear and still can't get over it, you are not alone. As Patton Oswalt said about the loss of his wife, “I’ll never be at 100 percent again...” That's exactly how I feel about losing Kim and about other important people who have passed.
Some people who knew Kim seem to not care so much that she is gone. Maybe that is just how they cope with death, but it's strange to those of us who really feel it on a daily basis.
If you are grieving, please turn to others for support. If you can't get it from the people closest to you, turn to support groups or even message boards online. They can help you feel like you are not so alone and are not so strange for having this lingering pain.
They don't teach you this in school, how hard life gets when you start to lose so many loved ones. It doesn't seem to get any easier. The only thing that helps me is the love of the people who are still here.